Have you ever felt overwhelmed by commitments, drained by relationships, or unsure how to carve out time for yourself without feeling guilty? You’re not alone. Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining balance in our lives, yet many of us struggle to know where to begin.

Here’s the good news: identifying where you need boundaries doesn’t have to feel impossible. By tuning into your emotional and physical cues, you can pinpoint areas of your life that need attention. Here are three practical ways to get started:

1. Pay Attention to Your Gut Reactions

Notice how you feel when someone makes a request or you take on a new responsibility. Do you feel energized and willing, or does a pit form in your stomach? That initial gut reaction often tells you whether something aligns with your capacity and values—or if it’s an area where you need to set a boundary.

2. Reflect on Patterns of Resentment

Resentment is a clear signal that a boundary is being crossed. Think about situations or relationships that leave you feeling frustrated or undervalued. Ask yourself:

Am I saying “yes” to avoid conflict or guilt?
Is this a recurring issue with this person or group?

Resentment is often less about what others do and more about where we haven’t communicated our limits.

3. Monitor Your Energy Levels

Where do you feel most exhausted in your daily life? Boundaries aren’t just about saying “no” to others—they’re also about protecting your energy for what matters most. Track your physical and emotional energy throughout the day to see which activities or interactions leave you feeling drained versus fulfilled.

Setting boundaries isn’t about creating walls; it’s about building healthier connections—with others and with yourself. It’s about protecting your peace while still showing up for what matters most.

In 2025, I’ll be hosting a Balancing Boundaries workshop designed to help you:

Uncover hidden areas of your life that need boundaries.
Learn scripts for saying “no” with confidence and kindness.
Practice real-life strategies for maintaining your boundaries over time.

If you’re ready to prioritize your well-being and regain control over your time and energy, this workshop will be your guide. Stay tuned for more details, and let’s start building the life you deserve—one healthy boundary at a time. 🌿